A memory file can play a significant role in your motivation says Rhonda Scharf
Iâm in the process of writing my âMother of the Groomâ speech and reliving many memories of my son when he was small. Itâs making me emotional but above all, very proud of the man he has become.
I remember when my boys were little, how they loved to sit and look at the photo albums of themselves as babies. They would ask the same questions over and over again about themselves. They wanted to know that they asked funny questions (like the time Christopher was learning fruit names and learned that an orange was orange. He picked up a lemon and asked if it was âa yellowâ).
It made them happy to see the good, and sometimes funny, things they did.
As I was reviewing those memories, it occurred to me that we arenât particularly good as adults at looking back at the things that we do that make us proud, or remind us that we are good, smart, and professional at work.
Just as I created memory books for my children, we need to create those types of memories about ourselves at work. A type of memory file we can look at when we feel a little bit fed up, when we feel slightly inadequate, or when we feel under-appreciated.
We are aware that we need to tell our loved ones that we love them, that we need to encourage people who are suffering and to have compassion for others.
But do we do the same for ourselves? Do you have a memory file at work?
I suggest you make one, by printing out hard copies of the things that need to go in it. I appreciate that isnât the best for the trees, but sometimes having something tangible in your hand can be an important motivator. I know that kids like looking at photos on an iPad the same way we looked at our photo albums, but I don’t want your memory folder to get lost on your computer. I want you to see how big it is in your filing cabinet and the number of things in it.
What You Need to Put in Your Memory File
1. A printout of every email that says you did something awesome
And if this means 200 of them, then print out 200 of them! If someone sends you an email thanking you for doing whatever it was you did, print it out.
2. A copy of any report, document, or project where you âstretchedâ yourself, by working outside your comfort zone
If you felt a sense of satisfaction for doing something you werenât sure you could do, put it in your memory folder.
3. Your LinkedIn profile
Print out your LinkedIn profile â especially the section where you have recommendations and endorsements. If you donât have any recommendations, get a few (and remind yourself quarterly to ask someone else to write one for you). They can be from former work colleagues, current colleagues or supervisors, members of your association, team members or leaders on any projects youâve been on, or from your local church group, daycare, condo association, etc. Get as many recommendations as you can, for any job youâve ever done or volunteered for.
4. A long version of your resume
Put every job youâve ever had on it, and the tasks you did in that job. This isnât the type of resume you will ever send a prospective employer, because itâs too big. It will list all your education (including the continuing education youâve done since youâve been working. And be sure to list every workshop youâve ever attended.) It will also list any awards youâve received, and designations (even if they arenât current). List your accomplishments and special projects youâve been involved with, and detail your role on those projects.
4. Your favourite photo of yourself
It doesnât matter if you were 20, or if you were 80 pounds lighter (or heavier) than you are now. Itâs the photo of you that makes you smile when you see it. It doesnât make you think âI wish I looked like that now,â it makes you warm and fuzzy on the inside.
Reviewing my sonâs history is making me smile, and I expect that when I relive these memories on his wedding day, he will smile, as well.
I hope your memory file makes you happy, too, and that it plays a significant role in helping to motivate you professionally.
