Chi Chi Okezie, business networking, diversity, and inclusion specialist, offers advice on overcoming self-doubt
Genuinely connecting with others opens doors for opportunities, collaborations, and insights. But for many of us, ‘imposter syndrome’ can affect our mood, perspectives, and efficiency in networking. Imposter syndrome, also known as imposter phenomenon or imposterism, is a psychological experience characterized by persistent self-doubt and a feeling of being an imposter, despite evidence of one’s accomplishments. This negative way of persistent thinking can hinder your progress in connecting with others.
Listed below are simple and practical tactics for mitigating imposter syndrome when engaging with others.
Reject Perfection
It is unreasonable to believe that anyone can be perfect yet some people who experience imposter syndrome strive for perfection, and this can result in setting irrelevant or unobtainable goals. In networking, this might involve extending yourself to impress others or not establishing boundaries. Regardless of the situation, the wrong mindset can damage the quality of relationships and connections.
Reflect on the following questions to ensure that you are not experiencing this dilemma in networking:
- Do I constantly feel the need to overperform or extend myself?
- Do I feel content with myself and my ability to interact with others?
- Am I intimidated by my peers and do I avoid interactions?
- Am I consistently striving for validation and acceptance?
- Can I be comfortable in my own skin?
Reject Judgment
Another aspect of imposter syndrome is the feeling of being constantly judged. This can lead to anxiety, frustration, and isolation. Judgment is a heavy (and unnecessary) burden to carry. In regard to networking, it can cause avoidance and speculation. Instead of feeling judgment, channel your energy towards gratitude. Focus on opportunities to develop, grow, and gain insights while networking. Allow yourself space to learn and be curious. Lean toward patience, understanding, and appreciation. Additionally, be open and honest in your interactions. Give grace and the benefit of the doubt and vice versa.
Consider these questions for recognizing opportunities to resist the feeling of judgment:
- Do I feel the need to justify myself or my actions?
- Am I setting the proper expectations?
- Where can I improve in the way I view myself?
- How can I manage my feelings and emotions?
- Am I acknowledging the correct thoughts?
Reject Fear
Last but not least, imposter syndrome can create feelings of fear and doubt. Fear can be crippling, blocking your progress and leading to mistrust and broken relationships. Combat fear with affirmations which support your networking goals and ambitions. Foster relationships that can also serve as support systems and seek out authentic and genuine connections that are mutually beneficial.
Refer to these questions for developing resilience against fear and negative thinking:
- Am I surrounding myself with supportive and positive people?
- Do I understand my value and worth?
- Am I developing and learning on a regular basis?
- Am I focused on the right things?
Strategies for Resisting Imposter Syndrome
- Cancel perfection, judgment, and fear and replace them with assurance, confidence, and positivity.
- Realize your self-worth and value and connect with others in a healthy and professional way.
- Connect with individuals who can be a support system and vice versa.
- Offer communication to resolve misunderstandings and misconceptions.
- Take time to evaluate your feelings, emotions, and attitudes.
- Constantly monitor your thoughts and mindsets.
- Recognize negative mindsets by engaging in reflective questions.
Use these exercises to stay focused and to achieve your goals and objectives in networking for enduring success.
