They say you can’t have it all! The question is do we want it all? No one asks us that question – they just assume that they know how we feel. But do they? I have always believed that every one of us is made in our own unique form.
A lot has changed since I was a little girl and “Mummy” stayed at home to cook, clean and raise the children. However, my mother had been Dux girl of her school. Although she loved us dearly, she was getting more and more depressed staying at home looking after us – she needed something more to exercise her brain. In the end the Doctor wrote her a prescription on which he scrawled “Get a job!”
So I was a latch-key kid, I’d come home from junior school to an empty house. It didn’t bother me because I knew that Mummy was happy. Half an hour later and I would walk down to the station to meet my older sister coming home from school. About 6pm I would turn on the oven to cook the casserole that my mother had prepared before she went to work and then walk to the bus stop to meet her. We were all very happy and we grew up self-sufficient and with a great work ethic.
I learnt how to amuse myself and when my parents went to my sister’s parents evening and a tea towel left on the boiler caught fire I was the one that put it out, rescued the budgerigar from a smoke-filled kitchen and called the school to let them know that we were fine but could I speak to my father!
I married and when the children came along I happily gave up work to look after them but when they went to school I felt I had no purpose. So I set up my own business and it was very successful.
I believe women need a cause! They need something to look after, nurture, to see it develop and succeed. Now that can be anything from looking after children, helping a good cause, running a business, working for a global organisation, it goes on. Some will set up a nursery, some may run an e-business, some will do charity work or look after elderly parents – it doesn’t matter what it is so long as we have a cause to fight for, a challenge to meet.
The papers talk about the ageing population, “there will be no pensions”, “we need to keep our money in many different ways so that we remain financially secure!”
Companies are bought and sold and the framework for those companies changes. Sometimes they move the business to the other side of the world because that is the right financial decision to make for the company but what about the staff? It is not always convenient to work virtually.
So what can we do? The pace of change is so fast we might just miss the boat! Once it’s gone, it’s gone.
We need to become self-sufficient as our grandparents were when they grew their own vegetables etc but we should use technology. We must rely on ourselves to find a way to become financial secure. Gone are the days when you had a job for life and now our pensions are disappearing.
We spend so much time working for others that, often, we forget to work on our own plans. I firmly believe that the way forward is to set up your own website business producing an income while you sleep. This world is changing faster than we realise and you need to safeguard you and your family so take time now to work on your own personal plan. What was your dream growing up? How can you turn your passion into a business that will give you financial security in the years to come?
Will you realise your dream? Will you have financial security for you and your family? If you can make the internet work for you then the stress of what will happen in the future is removed. Ensure you have financial secure no matter what might happen.